Let’s be honest for a minute.
Seriously, though. Dating is weird. Am I right, ladies?
There’s all these expectations. We look for signs. Does he like me? What does this mean? Why hasn’t he texted me? Should I ask him out? We analyze. We judge. We compare.
We should stop.
This guy you’ve been seeing, he’s a person just like you. I don’t buy into this whole men- and- women- are- completely- different- species theory that gets perpetuated.
While I myself am a little old-fashioned when it comes to men (open the door, pick me up, help me into my coat, ask my dad for permission), I believe it’s just as weird for them as it is for us.
You think you’re nervous? He’s been working up his courage for weeks just to say hi.
You wonder what you’ll talk about? He’s trying not to say anything stupid that’ll make you think he’s an idiot.
You are worrying about who is going to hold whose hand? He’s hoping his palms aren’t sweaty.
See? Dating is weird.
It’s really just two people, trying to get to know each other a little better. We’ve all got our insecurities, bad hair days, and crazy stories. I know I do.
Maybe it’s because it’s been so long since I’ve had a proper date or maybe it’s the way my heart’s been changed, but I date differently now.
Ladies, take the pressure off. Let him just be himself and acknowledge that we’re all just people. It’s supposed to be fun, not a pass/fail test.
Try not to let your crazy show through too much, though. Otherwise, they will run for the hills.